Negativity and pessimism has a pretty hard time existing in the same space as compassion and gratitude. When life would come at me with all it’s challenges I used to be really good at wallowing. Through years and years of self reflection I have since cultivated a new default. Love. Compassion. Gratitude. In that order. Sometimes it kicks in right away and sometimes I have to manually push start but either way the end result is patience and happiness. At the end of the day what matters most? For most of us, it’s how we feel. Not what’s happening to us or around us but simply the emotions that those circumstances invoke.
Our inner light, or inner darkness, is a very powerful force. How we see the world and how we allow it to affect us, in turn, dictates our emotions and ultimately our behavior. Think back to the last time you had a bad day…How was your attitude? Who did you affect or interact with? Now think about the last time everything went wrong and yet, somehow, you weren’t phased. Did you wonder why? Because you chose to be happy and I will bet you did that through love, compassion, and gratitude. That could mean that you simply gave love, compassion, or gratitude to yourself. Or maybe you gave it to someone else. Let me share a brief example. I have a friend that has a special needs son and one day I asked her, “weren’t you upset when you found out he was autistic?”. She simply smiled with compassion in her eyes and said “after losing the baby before him, I was just grateful he was alive”. My perception was forever changed. My old belief of: when something bad happens I’m supposed to feel like crap changed to just because something seems bad doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate something about it. The new thought was a game changer.
I began seeing examples of it everywhere. You can talk to 10 different people with cancer and they will ALL have a different attitude. Some will feel like their life is over, others will feel like it was a blessing because they became closer than ever to their families. And some will feel like they have slowed down for the first time in their life to appreciate the little things. When we remember the power of our perception and our thoughts that’s when we are truly able to tap into our inner light. So do yourself a favor and when it feels like everything has gone to shit practice a little more love, compassion and gratitude. XOXO